Jan 4 - YOU ARE TRULY AMAZING!

It is day 4 of my launch and this is my first post since then. My apologies for taking so long. It’s been a crazy 3 days – crazy is a good kind of way! I am a media consultant and I know what can happen when you put information out there – they type of responses one can expect. But never in my wildest imaginations (and my imaginations can be pretty wild), did I expect this type of encouragement and connection. I’ve read your emails, your blog comments and the discussion board (I really am trying to do something about those inappropriate postings from those small few who spoil it for us). Because of what you said, what you say, I feel enveloped by support.


I go through much of my life thinking I’m the only one who feels the way that I do or that my ideas are so off target. But then you came along—all 25,000 of you (but who’s counting). And it has all changed. I have been fortunate to put the topic of singleness and the pursuit of marriage in a very public arena. I take that charge very seriously. But I do want you to know that if I never marry, I will be fine. It is not the ultimate goal in life. My life is good and full and I am blessed. My goal is to love and be loved and that love comes in many forms.



Don’t worry, this is not a concession speech – not even close. I just want you to know that I am attaining balance and perspective on this journey. Until my desire to be loved by a husband goes away, I will continue along this path of love (as well as my path to love and be loved as a sister, aunt, friend, and member of humanity, etc). And I hope and pray that you don’t give up on love. If it is something that you desire, connect with me and other singles around you (even your married friends). And as you have done for me, look to those who will encourage and support your dream. And try to do something new and different, if what you’ve done in the past isn’t working. Always be mindful of safety – that’s where friend and family accountability come in handy. I know you’re weary, but you still have some hope left. I can tell by your emails. So revive that hope. Not just for yourself, but for me too. I really do need you. We need each other
(as sappy as that sounds :-).

 

7 comments

Comment from: Victoria [Visitor] Email
I loved your blog today! It is very enlightening to know that there is someone else out there like myself. Though I am not as brave as you are with your quest, I did send an email to my friends this Christmas with a similiar request. I indicated that my gift to them was to a committment to increased time with them and more support for them. I asked in return that they find someone that they feel would be appropriate to date and maybe go further with. I have had several great relationships in life and some...well they were lessons. I too am ok to be alone but when there is that ahh moment, would like to share it with a mate not just a friend.

I wish you all the best on this quest. I will heed your advise and wisdom as you journey unvails.

Victoria
01/05/09 @ 01:25
Comment from: Miss. Renita [Visitor]
I'm happy that you're attaining balance, though it never seemed to me that you were unbalanced. I am anxious to see how this all works out for you. I am where you are, though I'm only (haha) 36. I too feel the need to be loved by a husband, but at the same time, I'm in no real hurry. Just as I've known through previous relationships when it was wrong, I trust and believe that I'll know when it's right..too bad it's just not RIGHT NOW!
;-)
More power to you and I'll be checking in periodically. Gods blessings on your journey!
01/05/09 @ 10:38
Comment from: Mary [Visitor] Email
Hello,

I saw your story and I don't think what you're doing is too out of the norm. I just want to wish you well, hope you have a lot of fun getting to know people and yourself more. Last but not least that you have not just a happy ending but, a new happy begining in 2010 (or sooner).
01/05/09 @ 23:39
Comment from: catlady [Visitor]
I like the concept of you blog but to be honest you sound so depressing. You are only 42 (you look 32) and keep talking about that your chances of getting married are lowering. I know that you have heard that what you speak of you bring into existence. I am 36 soon to be 37 and I am not married nor do I have any children. I feel that I will get married someday. You have to have faith.
01/06/09 @ 21:33
Comment from: Michael Tierney [Visitor] Email
So what happened to the guy who went to the awards dinner? You seemed to hit it off - he fit in with your co-workers etc. etc.

If he didn't contact you - maybe he thought he was just your designated Black Tie Dinner Date - if you have the "gonads" (pardon my French) to do "this" then you should call this guy back up and tell him to get is his Black Tie.
01/07/09 @ 13:30
Comment from: Roni [Visitor] Email
I really don't get why you are doing this. But if you think it will make you happy...honestly I think you are slightly crazy(lol). I wish that I knew you personally to ask "why?".
01/07/09 @ 14:02
Comment from: plainjane [Visitor]
I saw you on the Bonnie Hunt show today then had to visit your website. I think what you're doing is brave, clever and smart. If nothing else, it sure should give you a bigger (and hopefully better) potential pool of candidates and possible future friends. If you decided this is the time of your life you can now share with someone special -- go for it and ignore all those who try to stomp on your dreams.
01/16/09 @ 16:10

Leave a comment


Your email address will not be revealed on this site.

Your URL will be displayed.
(Line breaks become <br />)
(Name, email & website)
(Allow users to contact you through a message form (your email will not be revealed.)