Two years ago when I first conceived this project, I was 20 pounds lighter. I always thought when the website finally launched I would have lost the weight. But here I am heavier and dating. I love the fact that I didn’t use it as an excuse to postpone what I wanted to accomplish. Mind you, excuses and procrastination have been good friends of mine in the past, and they still often visit. But I look back with regret when I see how low self-esteem or body image stood in my way. I can kick myself for the times I allow someone’s thoughtless or rude comment immobilize me. I am a desirable creature. We all are. As imperfect as I am, I have a lot to offer in a relationship and there are men who will see that and appreciate me. I will say that I have not resigned to my current state. I am trying to lose the weight because it’s the healthy thing to do, just as I am working on other areas of my life that needs improvement like not judging people, or finishing what I start, or taking time for myself. But if you are like me and are looking for love – whether you’re married or single (because I know that a lot of married people feel like their spouses no longer love them), stop beating yourself up and fall in love with you. After all, we “are fearfully and wonderfully made.” And when we recognized that about ourselves, I think we become irresistible.