Hezekiah 12:6 The 11th Commandment
Thou shalt not kiss on the first date

I really believed that verse was in the Bible. I personally hadn’t read it, but I just assumed it was there. My Sunday School teacher recited it. She couldn’t be wrong… or could she? Well, these days singles talk more about whether to sleep with a guy on the first date. But for me, it was all about the kiss...

I am not a “kiss-on-the-first-date” kind of girl. Recently, I had a date with a guy. We really hit it off through email and then on the phone. I was excited to meet him. On the phone he had teased me about kissing me (because I told him my lips were my best physical quality, which they are. (Not that I don’t have some inner qualities like kindness and a great personality, but it asked for a physical quality, so I put down what I felt to be true). But I have digressed. Back to kissing.

Since I liked this guy and I thought he might try and kiss me on the first date, I wondered how I would respond. Should I resist or give in? If I gave in, would I break some “rule” would God be disappointed or upset? Well, I polled my friends and asked what I should do. I got many “don’t do it” responses, but was also received a few, “do what feels right.” This wasn’t a debate about sleeping with him, and I know for many of you reading this, you’re like “oh get over yourself and kiss the guy, already.”. So after thinking it over and polling my friends, I decided to pray on it. I must say, I really felt a little ridiculous asking God if I should kiss the man. But since God knows the number of the hairs on my head, I’m sure He wanted to hear from me on this. So, you want to know what God said… His official rule on whether a girl should kiss on the first date? Well, you’ll just have to go to him for yourself.

My response is not a cop out. I know for some of you, if I say that after wise counsel and prayer God told me that I should not kiss on the first date, you will make this your new rule. Likewise, if I tell you that I believe God gave me the thumbs up on the, it will give many of you an excuse to do what hasn’t really felt right for you. What I can say is that it is not a Golden rule, nor is it one of the 10 Commandments. There is no sin in either course of action. What’s more important is that I didn’t just let it happen or not happen because of some man rule that I blindly followed. Instead, I went to my Father, because he really does care about even the small things that concern me.