Jan 21 - To Kiss or Not to Kiss...
Hezekiah 12:6 The 11th Commandment
Thou shalt not kiss on the first date
I really believed that verse was in the Bible. I personally hadn’t read it, but I just assumed it was there. My Sunday School teacher recited it. She couldn’t be wrong… or could she? Well, these days singles talk more about whether to sleep with a guy on the first date. But for me, it was all about the kiss...
I am not a “kiss-on-the-first-date” kind of girl. Recently, I had a date with a guy. We really hit it off through email and then on the phone. I was excited to meet him. On the phone he had teased me about kissing me (because I told him my lips were my best physical quality, which they are. (Not that I don’t have some inner qualities like kindness and a great personality, but it asked for a physical quality, so I put down what I felt to be true). But I have digressed. Back to kissing.
Since I liked this guy and I thought he might try and kiss me on the first date, I wondered how I would respond. Should I resist or give in? If I gave in, would I break some “rule” would God be disappointed or upset? Well, I polled my friends and asked what I should do. I got many “don’t do it” responses, but was also received a few, “do what feels right.” This wasn’t a debate about sleeping with him, and I know for many of you reading this, you’re like “oh get over yourself and kiss the guy, already.”. So after thinking it over and polling my friends, I decided to pray on it. I must say, I really felt a little ridiculous asking God if I should kiss the man. But since God knows the number of the hairs on my head, I’m sure He wanted to hear from me on this. So, you want to know what God said… His official rule on whether a girl should kiss on the first date? Well, you’ll just have to go to him for yourself.
My response is not a cop out. I know for some of you, if I say that after wise counsel and prayer God told me that I should not kiss on the first date, you will make this your new rule. Likewise, if I tell you that I believe God gave me the thumbs up on the, it will give many of you an excuse to do what hasn’t really felt right for you. What I can say is that it is not a Golden rule, nor is it one of the 10 Commandments. There is no sin in either course of action. What’s more important is that I didn’t just let it happen or not happen because of some man rule that I blindly followed. Instead, I went to my Father, because he really does care about even the small things that concern me.
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Yes this is a tough issue. I always thought "Hey it is just a smooch on the lips everyone else is having carnal knowledge so a kiss cant be bad." But the reality is a kiss is more then a smooch especially if there are feelings behind it. There is some kind of exchange in the soul during a kiss. A very successful businessman spoke at my church one Sunday. Not only did he not kiss his wife on the first date, he didnt kiss her until he said "I do". That really left an impression on me that an exchange between a man and woman may be something that reverberates all of the way into the heavenlies. Just my 2 cents. Make that 1.78 cents the Dow closed lower today lol.
It was after a few years of his total committment to her and her to him that true love blossomed for her. They remained married for 44 years before my dad died and she never stopped grieving his loss even to the day she died.
Given that very personal revelation from my mom and my own personal experiences, I am currently sitting at this point. While chemistry is awesomely great to feel right off the bat, sometimes we need to take a step back and see what is going to happen. I believe EVERYONE has a true love out there, but that true love doesn't always sweep us off our feet right away.
I've been through this scenario with women, more than I care to remember. As a respectful man, I do appreciate your modest reticence.
Experience has taught me though, that if I can stoke fires (and I don't mean this in a superficial, jerk kinda way), even prayer won't hold back nature from taking its course.
A 'manly man' will make you feel that special warmth, deep down inside your core. It will begin to radiate and shine out through your smile. The two of us will breathe in unison as we speak, the topic won't even matter. Time elapsing will not be noticed as we share a special, emotional, spiritual place together. A kiss, far from an intrusion, will become the most natural succession of events that evening.
God insured the continuation of the human race by such nature. It's inevitable!
Good luck!
I've been through this scenario with women, more than I care to remember.
As a respectful man, I do appreciate your modest reticence.
Experience has taught me though, that if I stoke your fires (and I don't mean this in a superficial, jerk kinda way),
even prayer won't hold back nature from taking its course.
A real 'm-a-n' will make you feel that special warmth, deep down inside your core. It will begin to radiate and shine out through your smile. The two of us will breathe in unison as we speak, the topic won't even matter. Time elapsing will not be noticed as we share a special, emotional, spiritual place together. A kiss, far from an intrusion, will become the most natural succession of events that evening.
God insured the continuation of the human race by such nature. It's inevitable!
Good luck and continued success!
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